Lately, it feels as if I am being tried and tried and tried... drama everywhere I turn. How old are we people??? I don't know about you but I am 38, I will 39 in November. I am too old for drama.... leave me out of it please.
The only drama I want is the wonderful kind that comes after His Glorious appearance! I will write more soon I hope. There is so much in our lives right now I wouldn't know where to begin even if I had the time to write 50 pages worth!!!
If you think of me, pray for my little mouth to watch what I say and ,my tiny ears to be careful what they listen to... thank you!
God's goal for you in life.
Life goes on, move with it
Saturday, April 30, 2011
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Easter
God:
Passion
Love
Nurture
Grace
Forgiving
Us:
dirty
sinful
unforgiving
uncaring
unloving
Why would any spiritual being love us? why would the creator of all that exists love us? Honestly, I have no idea. My pastor referred to humans as animated dirt balls. I have to say that that description does not do the human nature justice...
What boggles my mind, and we have been learning about this on Sunday mornings, is that no matter what we do, God loves us. He wants a relationship with us. He wants to be part of the closest relationship we will ever have. He wants to be part of us. His love is so all encompassing that it covers EVERYTHING, leaving nothing left unloved.
I know as a parent my love for my children is incomprehensible. I know as a wife, that my love for my husband covers a multitude of mistakes and imperfections. It makes me blind to things in anyone else I would hate. No matter if my child were a homicidal maniac who openly practices homosexuality, I know in my heart of hearts, I would love them. Doesn't that mean that I condone their sinful behavior though? No. It does not.just because I love them doesn't mean that I think they are perfect and can do no wrong. It doesn't mean that I cna over look their behavior or actions. It just means that despite the sin, I have deeply rooted feelings towards them. If my husband were to have an affair, (which by the way he is honestly the last person I would ever suspect of having one) I know that if we both desire to rectify our marriage then we can.
Ok, so how does that relate to God loving us? Just think, if we, being human with all these horrible despicable flaws, love those that are closest to us that much, how much more does God love us? I mean come on! He gave His ONLY begotten son to die so that we may one day be with Him in glory again. The only way to cover the awful sins we have committed (lieing and taking the extra long lunch breaks are committing sin, btw) was to cover them with blood. Jesus became that covering. Once blood as covered our sins our sins become forgotten. Now, I ;m not talking about just forgotten in the human way of forgetting. I am talking about the God way of forgetting - to have no memory of ever again... Not to remember and just not hold it against us but to actually NOT remember the sins once they are forgiven. WOW! I am in awe...
My God, the creator of all that has existed, exists now and will exists in the future loves me enough to willingly forget my sins when I trust and believe on Him. I'm sorry, but even though I believe that 110% I still find it hard to comprehend.
So, thank you God for all your love, nurture, care and guidance You do so much more for me then I could ever begin to repay you for. I know through all my sins you love me and cherish each moment with me. Forgive me of those things I do wrong, even at those times when I know not that I am doing wrong... forgive me and clean me Oh Lord. Make me more like you....
Easter is a humbling time of year. It is when we should take a step back and reevaluate our lives. Are we the type of person God wants us to be? Do we understand how much god gave so that we may spend eternity with him? I sure hope you do, I know I try to.
Have a wonderfully joyous eye opening Easter.
Passion
Love
Nurture
Grace
Forgiving
Us:
dirty
sinful
unforgiving
uncaring
unloving
Why would any spiritual being love us? why would the creator of all that exists love us? Honestly, I have no idea. My pastor referred to humans as animated dirt balls. I have to say that that description does not do the human nature justice...
What boggles my mind, and we have been learning about this on Sunday mornings, is that no matter what we do, God loves us. He wants a relationship with us. He wants to be part of the closest relationship we will ever have. He wants to be part of us. His love is so all encompassing that it covers EVERYTHING, leaving nothing left unloved.
I know as a parent my love for my children is incomprehensible. I know as a wife, that my love for my husband covers a multitude of mistakes and imperfections. It makes me blind to things in anyone else I would hate. No matter if my child were a homicidal maniac who openly practices homosexuality, I know in my heart of hearts, I would love them. Doesn't that mean that I condone their sinful behavior though? No. It does not.just because I love them doesn't mean that I think they are perfect and can do no wrong. It doesn't mean that I cna over look their behavior or actions. It just means that despite the sin, I have deeply rooted feelings towards them. If my husband were to have an affair, (which by the way he is honestly the last person I would ever suspect of having one) I know that if we both desire to rectify our marriage then we can.
Ok, so how does that relate to God loving us? Just think, if we, being human with all these horrible despicable flaws, love those that are closest to us that much, how much more does God love us? I mean come on! He gave His ONLY begotten son to die so that we may one day be with Him in glory again. The only way to cover the awful sins we have committed (lieing and taking the extra long lunch breaks are committing sin, btw) was to cover them with blood. Jesus became that covering. Once blood as covered our sins our sins become forgotten. Now, I ;m not talking about just forgotten in the human way of forgetting. I am talking about the God way of forgetting - to have no memory of ever again... Not to remember and just not hold it against us but to actually NOT remember the sins once they are forgiven. WOW! I am in awe...
My God, the creator of all that has existed, exists now and will exists in the future loves me enough to willingly forget my sins when I trust and believe on Him. I'm sorry, but even though I believe that 110% I still find it hard to comprehend.
So, thank you God for all your love, nurture, care and guidance You do so much more for me then I could ever begin to repay you for. I know through all my sins you love me and cherish each moment with me. Forgive me of those things I do wrong, even at those times when I know not that I am doing wrong... forgive me and clean me Oh Lord. Make me more like you....
Easter is a humbling time of year. It is when we should take a step back and reevaluate our lives. Are we the type of person God wants us to be? Do we understand how much god gave so that we may spend eternity with him? I sure hope you do, I know I try to.
Have a wonderfully joyous eye opening Easter.
Friday, April 22, 2011
tonight
Tonight I had a decent conversation with someone whom I have a small disagreement with. Having the disagreement doesn't, and shouldn't mean that I no longer like this person, nor get along with them. It's all about peace. Ok, so maybe it's not all about peace, but I certainly would like it to be. Wouldn't it be nice if people would just be honest and not take things so personally? You see, long story short is that Mike and I have different opinions about this person. I am trying not to hold things against this person while Mike is pretty much fed up. I just want to be a good witness for Christ, but what exactly does that entail? Being honest, check. Following through with what you say, check. Being pleasant and not vindictive, check. Ok, so where do I go from here?
Now, I am not perfect, by any means! I have a lot of faults, too many to list. I am not going to throw stones at anyone and I wish people not to throw stones at me. I wish that God would work through me with this circumstance and that through this issue He may be glorified. But how can that happen when the two people on this side of the issue have way different ideas of how to handle it? I just don't know.
I'll write more later about this.
Right now my son wishes to die an early death. He is playfully joking about pouring water all over my computers. Ok, so this I will kill him for! lmbo!!! such a wonderful child, isn't he? lol
Today we had a wonderful day. the weather was gorgeous, not too cold and not to warm. We had a great time hanging outside as a fmaily. Adam found these Yu Gi Oh cards, LOTS of them! I wouldn't doubt if there were a couple of hundred of them. Now, of course, my son wanted to sell them to get easy money. Two major things were wrong with that idea, one way more wrong then the other. Fist of all, about half the cards were water logged so they wouldn't sell for anything... Secondly, why would we wish to sell something that we feel is sinful? Mike and I feel that would be wrong. It is almost like helping your friend sin but not actually committing the sin yourself... you know? it is just full of bad ideas! lol So, what did we do with these cards? We had a great bon fire in our grill. hehehe It was fun! lol The kids enjoyed burning the cards and of course, Mike is a pyro anyway. With all the cards burning it created lots of smoke, so you know we had to all get showers afterwards. It was so worth it though. :o)
After that, we decided to wait on the showers and got for a nature walk at a near by park. For hiking I find this particular spot fairly enjoyable. It has a great hill to climb, it's right next to a creek, and it has a meadow that opens up after you go through the forest area. There is a concrete bridge to cross and also a smaller wooden bridge later on. It was a bit muddy in spots but mostly it was semi dry. Now, there were not many animals about and the trees barely had buds on them. There were a lot of broken dead trees down every where due to the recent wind storms. This only made the walk more enjoyable as that meant more to look at and search around.
We found this one particular tree that fell and was braced between a couple of other trees. Since it was braced fairly well we could sit down on it and take some great pictures. We had lots of laughs and fun as a fmaily in the woods. I wish it was a longer time but I know this summer we will do it again. I think that over all it was a nice day.
I'll write more later if I can. For now I am going to go relax.
Now, I am not perfect, by any means! I have a lot of faults, too many to list. I am not going to throw stones at anyone and I wish people not to throw stones at me. I wish that God would work through me with this circumstance and that through this issue He may be glorified. But how can that happen when the two people on this side of the issue have way different ideas of how to handle it? I just don't know.
I'll write more later about this.
Right now my son wishes to die an early death. He is playfully joking about pouring water all over my computers. Ok, so this I will kill him for! lmbo!!! such a wonderful child, isn't he? lol
Today we had a wonderful day. the weather was gorgeous, not too cold and not to warm. We had a great time hanging outside as a fmaily. Adam found these Yu Gi Oh cards, LOTS of them! I wouldn't doubt if there were a couple of hundred of them. Now, of course, my son wanted to sell them to get easy money. Two major things were wrong with that idea, one way more wrong then the other. Fist of all, about half the cards were water logged so they wouldn't sell for anything... Secondly, why would we wish to sell something that we feel is sinful? Mike and I feel that would be wrong. It is almost like helping your friend sin but not actually committing the sin yourself... you know? it is just full of bad ideas! lol So, what did we do with these cards? We had a great bon fire in our grill. hehehe It was fun! lol The kids enjoyed burning the cards and of course, Mike is a pyro anyway. With all the cards burning it created lots of smoke, so you know we had to all get showers afterwards. It was so worth it though. :o)
After that, we decided to wait on the showers and got for a nature walk at a near by park. For hiking I find this particular spot fairly enjoyable. It has a great hill to climb, it's right next to a creek, and it has a meadow that opens up after you go through the forest area. There is a concrete bridge to cross and also a smaller wooden bridge later on. It was a bit muddy in spots but mostly it was semi dry. Now, there were not many animals about and the trees barely had buds on them. There were a lot of broken dead trees down every where due to the recent wind storms. This only made the walk more enjoyable as that meant more to look at and search around.
We found this one particular tree that fell and was braced between a couple of other trees. Since it was braced fairly well we could sit down on it and take some great pictures. We had lots of laughs and fun as a fmaily in the woods. I wish it was a longer time but I know this summer we will do it again. I think that over all it was a nice day.
I'll write more later if I can. For now I am going to go relax.
Monday, April 18, 2011
I don't know what to do.... more of Him, less of Me
Today I am left wanting waiting, my life on hold. Right now there is so much going on in my life that I am not sure where to even start. I will go into details about the specific events as they are not that important to for you to know. What I will go into though is my reactions to the actions these situations have brought on.
First and fore most, Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6.
The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother. Proverbs 10:1.
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil. Eccl. 12:14
At the moment I have a very rebellious young man living in my house. Adam just recently turned 16. He now thinks he is equal to Mike and I. That being said he has challenged us more then ever lately. Adam is now learning that hard way. Today I think he is starting to understand his need (and God's and our command) to be obedient.
That brings to my thought for today. How often do we need to learn things the hard way? Have you ever been so stubborn that you would not give in even if you were proved wrong? Have you ever had the fight or flight adrenaline rush and stayed to fight? If you said no, then you are lieing. It is in our nature to question things, to question God, to put our foot down and say it's my way or the highway bub! But then someone bigger, stronger, meaner with a more stubborn attitude comes along and knock you down a few notches, or worse of all flat on your back. If you have ever broken your tail bone then you know how badly that hurts, to walk, to sit to lay down. It is painful. It take a longer time to heal also. If you think that is bad just look at what God can do, or allow to be done to you.
Job 2:6 & part of 7 - And the LORD said unto Satan, Behold, he is in thine hand; but save his life. So went Satan forth from the presence of the LORD, and smote Job...
Job's response to the criticism thrown at him towards God:
Job 42:1-6 Then Job answered the LORD, and said, I know that thou canst do every thing, and that no thought can be withholden from thee. Who is he that hideth counsel without knowledge? therefore have I uttered that I understood not; things too wonderful for me, which I knew not. Hear, I beseech thee, and I will speak: I will demand of thee, and declare thou unto me. I have heard of thee by the hearing of the ear: but now mine eye seeth thee. Wherefore I abhor myself, and repent in dust and ashes.
If only we could all be like Job!!! To have such faith and love for God that you would go through any trial and tribulation for Him. I can only hope and pray that God gives me the strength needed to pass through any tribulation that is thrown my way and end up praising His glorious name for it. Now I know that Job was not disobedient to God; as Adam has been. But he was tormented. I think we all need to step back and take a god look at our hearts. How much are we rebellious towards God? How does God really see us? UGH!!! What a question! To look at myself through God's eyes is horrible!! Yes Adam has been defiant and rebellious as of late, but in reality we all are in you stop to think about it.
Anyhow, Adam has been challenging us so much and most people are shocked about that as he seems to be a great kid. He just needs to learn what it means to be submissive. Being submissive isn't letting someone rule you with an iron fist. It is humbling yourself so much that you put the other person's authority over you.
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Ok, so I wrote the above a few days ago and then was unable to finish it. It is now early Monrday morning and the really challenging moments with Adm has subsided. I think I am starting to see a more obedient son. I like this not because it means we have less fights. I like it because he is not cow-towing to me. He is truly being humbled and submissive. Sometimes we need to back off and let God work His majic...
That being said, today I learned a valuable lesson, that I really did not want to have to learn. I have a huge problem with genuinely, honestly and with 100% trust someone, anyone.... The only person I trust as much as I can at the moment is my husband and Daniel. Adam I love, seriously I really do, but because of his rebellious and defiant attitude I have a harder time trusting him.
There is this lady whom I have recently had a confrontation with. I seriously thought I was in the right for the most part. Now I did admit I could have been wrong and I should have handled the situation a bit more calmly, but this other person wasn't admitting anything... So, of course, in my screwed up human nature that got me frustrated... and a bit hurt. Now, I know I am far from perfect but I also know that I did not entirely cause the situation by myself.... Well, because of this initial situation things sort of got out of hand. I was very sweetly reminded by a terrific brother in the Lord that it blew up because I didn't trust God (and those helping mediate this situation) to handle it. I gave it to them to rectify and then I took it back. You ever do that? I am so guilty of that.... I like to say that I am always trusting God to work in my life to make me the best person I can. But do I??? I think I do. I just have a hard time trusting someone who may not match or compliment my personality.
You know the weird thing is I could probably really like this lady. she's smart, confident, a go getter, got her head on straight, a great homeschooling mom and a teacher... I do not know because I have never taken the time to get to know her as I have always sensed tension between us, but I suspect she is a very sweet funny enjoyable person to be around. So, I have to say I am deeply sorry for my harsh judgment of you, you know who you are.....
God, please bless this woman in all her life. Bless her children, her husband and her co-workers. Help this woman have peace in her life and feel loved and comforted by those around her. Give her your peace that passes understanding...
Now, the mediators that are helping with this situation are so nice and understanding while also keeping a very neutral open mind. It is so nice to have a fresh perspective that has been led by God, for that is the only way they could have realized some of the underlining issues... my issues. yup, that is right, for someone who thought she really acted in a proper manner found out she was a fool! we are learning a lot about fools on Sunday mornings. I always thought of myself as anything but a fool! I had not htought that I was hindering the mediators by stepping in and trying to help. I thought I was truly helping.... In my rush to get things taken care of I screwed it up. I know that sounds fmailiar to a lot of people out there, not just to me huh?
But PRIDE goes before destruction...
Personal
Reflection
Is
Deemed
Exceptional
Sound familiar? At this comment I know that is is not describing me. this afternoon before meeting up with these families it was me... so, I guess I'm trying to say a couple of things here... Don't think too highly of yourself because God will do something to make you fall flat on your face, which hurts quite a lot! don't judge someone before getting to know them. Lastly, WATCH OUT FOR PRIDE!!! It can come as a soft voice, reminding you that you wouldn't act like that person, or it could be bold and boasting... It could be well, I wouldn't have picked that dress to wear or thinking that my house is cleaner then so and so's... It cold be unnoticeable to you or it could be right there in the open. Watch for it, cause it will get you bit each and every time whether you realize it or not...
Let go and Let God has taken a whole new meaning to me now.
So thank you for listening to my rantings and my babbling. I really write this blog for me but I do enjoy hearing your feedback. Please comment or msg me with any comments thoughts, ideas or advice. God Bless!
Trisha
First and fore most, Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6.
The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother. Proverbs 10:1.
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil. Eccl. 12:14
At the moment I have a very rebellious young man living in my house. Adam just recently turned 16. He now thinks he is equal to Mike and I. That being said he has challenged us more then ever lately. Adam is now learning that hard way. Today I think he is starting to understand his need (and God's and our command) to be obedient.
That brings to my thought for today. How often do we need to learn things the hard way? Have you ever been so stubborn that you would not give in even if you were proved wrong? Have you ever had the fight or flight adrenaline rush and stayed to fight? If you said no, then you are lieing. It is in our nature to question things, to question God, to put our foot down and say it's my way or the highway bub! But then someone bigger, stronger, meaner with a more stubborn attitude comes along and knock you down a few notches, or worse of all flat on your back. If you have ever broken your tail bone then you know how badly that hurts, to walk, to sit to lay down. It is painful. It take a longer time to heal also. If you think that is bad just look at what God can do, or allow to be done to you.
Job 2:6 & part of 7 - And the LORD said unto Satan, Behold, he is in thine hand; but save his life. So went Satan forth from the presence of the LORD, and smote Job...
Job's response to the criticism thrown at him towards God:
Job 42:1-6 Then Job answered the LORD, and said, I know that thou canst do every thing, and that no thought can be withholden from thee. Who is he that hideth counsel without knowledge? therefore have I uttered that I understood not; things too wonderful for me, which I knew not. Hear, I beseech thee, and I will speak: I will demand of thee, and declare thou unto me. I have heard of thee by the hearing of the ear: but now mine eye seeth thee. Wherefore I abhor myself, and repent in dust and ashes.
If only we could all be like Job!!! To have such faith and love for God that you would go through any trial and tribulation for Him. I can only hope and pray that God gives me the strength needed to pass through any tribulation that is thrown my way and end up praising His glorious name for it. Now I know that Job was not disobedient to God; as Adam has been. But he was tormented. I think we all need to step back and take a god look at our hearts. How much are we rebellious towards God? How does God really see us? UGH!!! What a question! To look at myself through God's eyes is horrible!! Yes Adam has been defiant and rebellious as of late, but in reality we all are in you stop to think about it.
Anyhow, Adam has been challenging us so much and most people are shocked about that as he seems to be a great kid. He just needs to learn what it means to be submissive. Being submissive isn't letting someone rule you with an iron fist. It is humbling yourself so much that you put the other person's authority over you.
******************************************************************************8
Ok, so I wrote the above a few days ago and then was unable to finish it. It is now early Monrday morning and the really challenging moments with Adm has subsided. I think I am starting to see a more obedient son. I like this not because it means we have less fights. I like it because he is not cow-towing to me. He is truly being humbled and submissive. Sometimes we need to back off and let God work His majic...
That being said, today I learned a valuable lesson, that I really did not want to have to learn. I have a huge problem with genuinely, honestly and with 100% trust someone, anyone.... The only person I trust as much as I can at the moment is my husband and Daniel. Adam I love, seriously I really do, but because of his rebellious and defiant attitude I have a harder time trusting him.
There is this lady whom I have recently had a confrontation with. I seriously thought I was in the right for the most part. Now I did admit I could have been wrong and I should have handled the situation a bit more calmly, but this other person wasn't admitting anything... So, of course, in my screwed up human nature that got me frustrated... and a bit hurt. Now, I know I am far from perfect but I also know that I did not entirely cause the situation by myself.... Well, because of this initial situation things sort of got out of hand. I was very sweetly reminded by a terrific brother in the Lord that it blew up because I didn't trust God (and those helping mediate this situation) to handle it. I gave it to them to rectify and then I took it back. You ever do that? I am so guilty of that.... I like to say that I am always trusting God to work in my life to make me the best person I can. But do I??? I think I do. I just have a hard time trusting someone who may not match or compliment my personality.
You know the weird thing is I could probably really like this lady. she's smart, confident, a go getter, got her head on straight, a great homeschooling mom and a teacher... I do not know because I have never taken the time to get to know her as I have always sensed tension between us, but I suspect she is a very sweet funny enjoyable person to be around. So, I have to say I am deeply sorry for my harsh judgment of you, you know who you are.....
God, please bless this woman in all her life. Bless her children, her husband and her co-workers. Help this woman have peace in her life and feel loved and comforted by those around her. Give her your peace that passes understanding...
Now, the mediators that are helping with this situation are so nice and understanding while also keeping a very neutral open mind. It is so nice to have a fresh perspective that has been led by God, for that is the only way they could have realized some of the underlining issues... my issues. yup, that is right, for someone who thought she really acted in a proper manner found out she was a fool! we are learning a lot about fools on Sunday mornings. I always thought of myself as anything but a fool! I had not htought that I was hindering the mediators by stepping in and trying to help. I thought I was truly helping.... In my rush to get things taken care of I screwed it up. I know that sounds fmailiar to a lot of people out there, not just to me huh?
But PRIDE goes before destruction...
Personal
Reflection
Is
Deemed
Exceptional
Sound familiar? At this comment I know that is is not describing me. this afternoon before meeting up with these families it was me... so, I guess I'm trying to say a couple of things here... Don't think too highly of yourself because God will do something to make you fall flat on your face, which hurts quite a lot! don't judge someone before getting to know them. Lastly, WATCH OUT FOR PRIDE!!! It can come as a soft voice, reminding you that you wouldn't act like that person, or it could be bold and boasting... It could be well, I wouldn't have picked that dress to wear or thinking that my house is cleaner then so and so's... It cold be unnoticeable to you or it could be right there in the open. Watch for it, cause it will get you bit each and every time whether you realize it or not...
Let go and Let God has taken a whole new meaning to me now.
So thank you for listening to my rantings and my babbling. I really write this blog for me but I do enjoy hearing your feedback. Please comment or msg me with any comments thoughts, ideas or advice. God Bless!
Trisha
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
man's innate nature
why? I sit back and I ask myself why? how? where did I go wrong?
We are all human and we are all full of sin. We are evil decrepit animated dirt balls. I knwo that sounds awful but it is the truth and sometimes the truth actually does hurt.
What man will do to man is unfathomable and incomprehensible. I just don't get it.
Today is going to be a long long day. Bible Study tonight though so that will be good.
We are all human and we are all full of sin. We are evil decrepit animated dirt balls. I knwo that sounds awful but it is the truth and sometimes the truth actually does hurt.
What man will do to man is unfathomable and incomprehensible. I just don't get it.
Today is going to be a long long day. Bible Study tonight though so that will be good.
Sunday, April 10, 2011
things on my mind
So many things floating around bumping into each other in this head of mine. Today has been unusual but enjoyable. Yesterday was stressful but also quite enjoyable. I have learned a lot over the last 2 days about relationships, with each other as humans and with humans and God. Mostly I have learned about my relationship with God. What it means to me, how it affets my friends and family, how it affects people I interact with here in the internet and in real life have all been things I have grown to understand.
Now, I do not imagine, in any sense of the way, that I know all about this topic as I have so much more to learn. I think that is one of the greatest things about the greatest minds in history; to my knowledge they all acknowledge that they still have more to learn.
Yesterday I was faced with an irritated mom, whom I did not agree with. I thought her negativity was not conducive to the situation she was in. After mentioning this to her, in as loving a way as I could while being upset myself, she became very hostile towards me. This threw me for a loop as I did not expect this situation to arise, really, who ever does though? I could have been upset and let this ruin my day but I chose to give the situation to God. I knew it would just anger me and it would fester. Then later in the day I was taken off gaurd again and asked to babysit a freind's daughter whom I have never watched before. Of course I said yes but I was leary about it. All my worry was for naught as they child was wonderfully behaved.
Then it comes to this morning. Prayer meeting at church went the same as it always does and I felt blessed. I have thought this thought before but was sort of afraid of sounding stupid saying it out loud. I was nervous telling the person it was about because I barely know the man. You know the little voice you get in your head that encourages you to do or not to do something specific? Lots of people call that your conscience, but not me. I call it a gift from God. To me, well that little voice, it's as if God is speaking directly to me sometimes. so I try to listen to it. I listened to it this morning at prayer. I mentioned to this gentleman that his prayers were a blessing to me. they are sweet, loving, full of worship and praise, from the heart. He quotes scriptures relevant to the prayer and sings his prayer at times. I am in awe of how he prayers. Now, I have no idea what this man thought of my comment but I know that I felt better saying it out loud. I could have let this thought stay hidden inside me and then I would have missed out on a terrific feeling and blessing God gave me.
You know children never really do what you wish them to do, not even when they are teenagers. Mine seem to think that I am on their beck and call every minute of every day. Now I want them to know that I am here if they need me but I also want them to be independent and resourceful. I want them to become their own person with their own identity. I do not want them to rely on me forever, as I will not be here on Earth that long. I will not be living with them as adults nor will I able to help them at their jobs so they NEED to learn to be more independent. This weekend we put our foot down with the kids. Well, actually we did it last weekend but this weekend we reiterated it. I think it finally sunk in. lol There have been so many times that I have gone to a neighbor's place or to the local school or library by myself while they kids stayed home. Usually I am gone for less then an hour but I get a phone cal or a knock on the neighbor's door by one of my kids. My kids are 16 & 13. There really is no need for these frequent interruptions. lol So, today when Mike and I went on our date I expected a call at least from one of the kids. It was bliss not being interrupted on our date. I think the kids finally have learned!!! woo hoo!!!! lol
Te other thing about teens (or any child) not doing what you wish them to do would be related to chores. Now, my kids have chores they are required to do and others they can do for pay. Usually if I tell them to do it whether it is for pay or not, they have to do it., it's not a choice. lol One of their chores is to unload the dishwasher. Empty the garbage is also a chore. Now with emptying the garbage, since we live in an apartment complex, taking the trash to the dumpster goes without saying. (One would think, right?) Emptying the dishwasher also includes putting away any clean dishes that are on the counter from hand-washing. Nope, not according to my kids. We have had so many discussions about this and quite a few punishments and still "they forget". my butt they forget!!! They are lazy children! lol Mike says if they do not do as asked they do not eat. lol I like this rule and I think I have to establish it in our lives. You would think that hanging up (in the closet) your coat each time you come in form outside would be a good idea, right? Leaving it out hanging on the door handle just makes the place look messy. Well, my kids have their own warped sense of right and wrong because even after many many many years of telling them to hang it in the closet it still gets hung on the door handle. UGH!!!!! lmbo!!! I knwo teens will be teens but just because their age ends in teen does not give them the right to disobey. It does not give them a free pass to be rude or to be disrespectful. Teenage rebellion is not acceptable in my book. Teenage rebellion is sin. plain and simple.
Yes I may be a bit lenient with my kids when it comes to dishes, hanging up coats or calling me unnecessarily. I agree, i am not the perfect parent. I do know that I am a parent who 1) knows where my kids are at (almost) all times... 2) knows all my kids friends... 3) commands respect and gets it for the most part.... 4) and most importantly, raising my children to love the Lord our God. To me that last one is the deal breaker. It is the clincher. It is the top of the cake. If you have this you have it all. If you do not hav eit you end up wth messed up teens who turn into messed up adults.
So, that is my 2 cents for the night. It's late and tomorrow is churhc. yeah!!!! Please comment if you like as I love to read what you think. Have a blessed Sunday and time worship our Lord and Saviour. :o)
Now, I do not imagine, in any sense of the way, that I know all about this topic as I have so much more to learn. I think that is one of the greatest things about the greatest minds in history; to my knowledge they all acknowledge that they still have more to learn.
Yesterday I was faced with an irritated mom, whom I did not agree with. I thought her negativity was not conducive to the situation she was in. After mentioning this to her, in as loving a way as I could while being upset myself, she became very hostile towards me. This threw me for a loop as I did not expect this situation to arise, really, who ever does though? I could have been upset and let this ruin my day but I chose to give the situation to God. I knew it would just anger me and it would fester. Then later in the day I was taken off gaurd again and asked to babysit a freind's daughter whom I have never watched before. Of course I said yes but I was leary about it. All my worry was for naught as they child was wonderfully behaved.
Then it comes to this morning. Prayer meeting at church went the same as it always does and I felt blessed. I have thought this thought before but was sort of afraid of sounding stupid saying it out loud. I was nervous telling the person it was about because I barely know the man. You know the little voice you get in your head that encourages you to do or not to do something specific? Lots of people call that your conscience, but not me. I call it a gift from God. To me, well that little voice, it's as if God is speaking directly to me sometimes. so I try to listen to it. I listened to it this morning at prayer. I mentioned to this gentleman that his prayers were a blessing to me. they are sweet, loving, full of worship and praise, from the heart. He quotes scriptures relevant to the prayer and sings his prayer at times. I am in awe of how he prayers. Now, I have no idea what this man thought of my comment but I know that I felt better saying it out loud. I could have let this thought stay hidden inside me and then I would have missed out on a terrific feeling and blessing God gave me.
You know children never really do what you wish them to do, not even when they are teenagers. Mine seem to think that I am on their beck and call every minute of every day. Now I want them to know that I am here if they need me but I also want them to be independent and resourceful. I want them to become their own person with their own identity. I do not want them to rely on me forever, as I will not be here on Earth that long. I will not be living with them as adults nor will I able to help them at their jobs so they NEED to learn to be more independent. This weekend we put our foot down with the kids. Well, actually we did it last weekend but this weekend we reiterated it. I think it finally sunk in. lol There have been so many times that I have gone to a neighbor's place or to the local school or library by myself while they kids stayed home. Usually I am gone for less then an hour but I get a phone cal or a knock on the neighbor's door by one of my kids. My kids are 16 & 13. There really is no need for these frequent interruptions. lol So, today when Mike and I went on our date I expected a call at least from one of the kids. It was bliss not being interrupted on our date. I think the kids finally have learned!!! woo hoo!!!! lol
Te other thing about teens (or any child) not doing what you wish them to do would be related to chores. Now, my kids have chores they are required to do and others they can do for pay. Usually if I tell them to do it whether it is for pay or not, they have to do it., it's not a choice. lol One of their chores is to unload the dishwasher. Empty the garbage is also a chore. Now with emptying the garbage, since we live in an apartment complex, taking the trash to the dumpster goes without saying. (One would think, right?) Emptying the dishwasher also includes putting away any clean dishes that are on the counter from hand-washing. Nope, not according to my kids. We have had so many discussions about this and quite a few punishments and still "they forget". my butt they forget!!! They are lazy children! lol Mike says if they do not do as asked they do not eat. lol I like this rule and I think I have to establish it in our lives. You would think that hanging up (in the closet) your coat each time you come in form outside would be a good idea, right? Leaving it out hanging on the door handle just makes the place look messy. Well, my kids have their own warped sense of right and wrong because even after many many many years of telling them to hang it in the closet it still gets hung on the door handle. UGH!!!!! lmbo!!! I knwo teens will be teens but just because their age ends in teen does not give them the right to disobey. It does not give them a free pass to be rude or to be disrespectful. Teenage rebellion is not acceptable in my book. Teenage rebellion is sin. plain and simple.
Yes I may be a bit lenient with my kids when it comes to dishes, hanging up coats or calling me unnecessarily. I agree, i am not the perfect parent. I do know that I am a parent who 1) knows where my kids are at (almost) all times... 2) knows all my kids friends... 3) commands respect and gets it for the most part.... 4) and most importantly, raising my children to love the Lord our God. To me that last one is the deal breaker. It is the clincher. It is the top of the cake. If you have this you have it all. If you do not hav eit you end up wth messed up teens who turn into messed up adults.
So, that is my 2 cents for the night. It's late and tomorrow is churhc. yeah!!!! Please comment if you like as I love to read what you think. Have a blessed Sunday and time worship our Lord and Saviour. :o)
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