correction on my forgiveness post

Since I wrote the first forgiveness blog the other day I have had a few conversations with people. I have thought a lot about what I wrote and how it came across. I forgot to add something, the absolutely most important thing was left out. I was tired and I was stupid, that is my reason for forgetting...


SALVATION

You see salvation is the most important thing to forgiveness.., We could wish forgiveness on everyone and we could convince ourselves that we have truly forgiving someone but unless that hurt and pain has somewhere to go, it's still in you. It doesn't just disappear. I know,. I've been there.

You see when I was a lil tyke I was severely abused, emotionally, yes. Physically, yes. sexually, yup you guessed it, that too.

How does one forgive their parents when instead of protecting them they are causing the abuse. How does a young girl forgive the father that raped her? I'm telling you she can't. I couldn't. My dad died denying all that happened. How could he?

What was a girl to do when her mother denied all of it too? Her own mother broke her bones in a fit of anger... her mother, her very own biological mother, caused scar tissue on her brain from all the beatings...

How could that little girl forgive that? She can't...

But God can. You see God is bigger then the hurt. Bigger then the pain. Bigger then the abuse. Jesus took all the pain, all the anger, all the hurt, all the hate upon Himself on the cross. He had His arms spread out, nailed to the cross and then dripping with blood He cried out Forgive them Father for the y know not what they do. That is true forgiveness. You can't have true forgiveness with the out that....

So you see Salvation is the key to true forgiveness...

enough said.

update on forgiveness

Hi. well, it''s been 2 days since I wrote that last long post. You know the one about forgiveness? Well, I was thinking yesterday that it might have been a temporary thing that I was feeling. I'm here to say that once God fixes something, it doesn't break again until we mess with it. lol If I leave my hands out of God's handiwork things will be a ok. lol

I'm still feeling pretty well about the lady I was so hurt by.

Writing this right now makes me think of something.

I was hurt by this lady right? Well, I know she didn't mean to intentionally hurt me. I can't see her thinking that way. So, the only other way to understand what happened was a bit of miscommunication and lack of listening to each other.

That leads me to think about whose fault my feelings getting hurt was. After thinking about it, only one explanation makes sense. It was my fault my feelings got hurt. How cold that be? I wasn't rude, I wasn't hurtful to this person. I was trying to avoid the argument. How could it truly be my fault?

Well, we all have choices in life. We can choose one thing or the other. Forgiveness is a choice. Hatred is a choice, love is a choice. They are all action words. I could have chose not to get so hurt my her words. I could have just been like a duck and let it roll off my back.

I must remember this for when (and I do men when as I am still human and will continue to screw things up) I open my mouth and get myself into trouble again.

So anyhow, leave it in God's hands is truly the best advice ever!

Praise God.

true forgiveness, finally.

Forgiveness.

It's not about them, it's about you.

I have been dealing with an issue that has been preventing me from giving true forgiveness.

I won't say who or what but lets say I was deeply hurt by someone. I sort of wanted to forgive as I know that is the right thing to do, but deep down inside I did not really want to forgive this lady. My feelings were to deeply hurt. I was angry and a bit bitter.

One would think that to forgive someone is to forget what they did and to be best friends with them again. Not so. It truly has nothing to do with the person you are forgiving. It has to do only with ourselves.

Think about it this way. If you are angry at someone, who does that affect? You. Most likely that person doesn't know you are angry or doesn't care. If you are hurt by and bitter towards someone who does that affect? You. Not them. They probably don't know or don't realize the extent of your hurt feelings. If they did they might or might not care. They might or might not do anything to help you feel better about the situation. They have no control over your feelings. They have no say over how you feel. Only you do. You can't make them apologize but you can chose to forgive. It truly is a choice. A decision you have to make; to forgive or not to forgive is the question of the day.


I have had to make the decision today. God has been working on me for sometime now to make this decision but stupid me doesn't like to listen. Listen means that I may be wrong and I did not want to admit I was wrong. But I was wrong. I was wrong for not wanting to forgive this lady.


Let me simply say one thing before I go on. Forgiveness does not mean you have to put yourself in the same situation to get hurt again. It does mean that even though you know what happened and you knwo how you were hurt you must not let it bother you anymore. Our human brains do not forget like God does. We tend to remember every horrible detail of how wer were hurt, by whom, when and how badly. We need to make a conscience decision to put it in the past and leave it there.


Ok, back to what I was saying. I had a good friend call today and tell me he was praying for us with this situation. In fact he prayed right there on the phone with me. He gave me some great advice about this topic. Then, immediately (within seconds) another close friend called me. We talked for 90 minutes (WOW!!!!!) and she gave me some great advice too. (Can you say God was working on my heart today???)


To err is human to forgive is divine. My good friend said this to me today. She said how true it is. True forgiveness only comes from a divine being giving us grace to do so. We cannot forgive on our own. We must have the grace of God to be able to truly forgive.


Without going into any more details I just wish to simply say that I praise God for giving me the grace needed to truly forgive the woman who so deeply hurt me.


I do wish to add more to this post but it is late and I am am tried. I have to go to bed. Maybe I might add more in a day or two. We'll see.


For now I will leave you with this.


Luke 17:2-4  It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.



Matthew 18:21-22  Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.


Matthew 6:14-15  For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

For all the moms out there.... and dads too!

31 Things To Do on a Boring, Rainy or Cold day...

Ok, before I go into my post I want to share another blogger's post.

http://www.thriftyhomemaker.com/2010/01/31-winter-activities-for-kids.html

1. Make a cake/ cupcakes and use powdered sugar for icing and drizzle over a paper snowflake.
2. Write a poem or story about snow or winter
3. Hide a mitten in the room somewhere and let others try to find it. Give them clues by telling them whether they are 'hot' (near the mitten) or 'cold' (far from the mitten).
4. Go for a walk and look for animal tracks in snow
5. Make ice cube popsicles by freezing juice and putting a toothpick in to hold it with
6. Make snowmen out of old socks
7. Watch birds
8. Make a list of things to do in 2011
9. Draw a winter picture
10. Clean toys, books and clothes to bless others with
11. Eat popcorn and play a game
12. Make cinnamon toast in the oven
13. Make glitter snowflakes, draw on paper with glue shake glitter or salt let dry and write Psalm 51:7
14. Make ice sun catchers using pie plates and nature items, add water and string to freeze and hang up.
15. Make pizza and watch a movie
16. Make snowflakes with tortillas
17. Bake Cookies
18. Make Marshmallow snowmen
19. Make Rice Socks
20. Make Snowflake Tshirts
21. Have Picnic inside
22. Make igloo with marshmallows/sugar cubes and icing
23. Play with snow in a tub / pan / tub in the house.
24. New Years Poppers to give to others
25. Make Snow Cream if it snows or make glue snowflakes
26. New Years Day Dinner
27. Play in Snow if no snow make white play dough
28. Read snow and winter books
29. Make Paper Snow Flakes
30. Pinecone Bird Feeders
31. Make Donuts out of can biscuits

Now my post.
I love all these ideas but some aren't ones I would do even if my kids were still little. I thought what a cool idea to make a list like this though. So here I am, making my own version of the 31 things to do on a boring, rainy or cold day...

31 Things To Do on a Boring, Rainy or Cold day... 


1) using construction paper make a hopscotch board on your floor. Use bean bags, larger coins, small soft toys or such to instead of rocks.

2) Take silly pictures of each other with a digital camera.

3) Put on a fashion show.


4) make a tent out of blankets and have story time in the tent. (String up strings and drape the blankets over them to hang them as the sides of the tent or throw a blanket over the kitchen table covering all the sides and camp under the table.) :o) 

5) Make sun catchers with coffee filters, markers and spray bottles of water. color with markers, spray with water then let dry. :o)

6) make up a game to play. 


7) tell stories


8) do some kitchen science.


9) play with a light up bouncy ball or flashlights in a dark room.


10) create a spa in your house complete with a nail polishing center, a facial area and a hair dressing table.


11) play floor hockey in the basement or on carpet. You could use bouncy balls instead of hard balls.


12) Make your own phone using cans and string. Go into separate rooms and talk to each other. :o)


13) build with Legos. You could make all sorts of things from complete cities to futuristic cars!


14) Play house. Play dolls.


15) Create your own restaurant. Make a menu, decorate the table top and then serve food suing the fancy dishes.


16) think of what era you would have liked to be born in and then dress up and spend the day like you actually lived in that era.

17) go for an expedition in your own house. Plan a route, and events to do at each destination (ie: room)

18) start a scavenger hunt

19) make up silly songs

20) play the music really loud and dance the day away.

21) bake cookies

22) make a rainy day scrapbook. (Scrapbook about only the things you would do on a rainy day)

23) act out different animals

24) play with water. use food coloring, toys rocks etc.... have fun with it.

25) Have a pajama day. Bring the blankets and pillows out int the living room, cuddle up and watch a movie together.

26) go outside in the rain and dance and play in it. Stomp in all those puddles!

27) have a fear factor day. Do things you usually wouldn't like to do just to see if you can do them. Make sure there are prizes for all that hard work of doing things you don't like!!!!

28) create an obstacle course through your house and time yourself as you race thru it.

29) Tie Dye t-shirts or pajamas. You could also do pillowcases too. :o)

30) using window markers decorate your windows for all the world to see.

31) Play Marco Polo, sharks and minnows, or other such games, in a spacious open area lke the living =room or basement.

Ok, so there is the not 31 things I could think of. I hope I have not repeated any. lol If you like this and wish to share it by all means do so. If you try any of these ideas and like them comment below.

Oh, here are a couple of more ideas.

Play jepordy (make up your own questions and such.)
play wheel of fortune (again, make it up as you play)
act out your favorite tv show or book
Make your own ice cream or ice cream sandwiches


Ok, that is it for now. lol I think
Have a great night!!